Author Letonia F. Page
Letonia F. Page, BSN, MPA, is a certified Life & Relationship Coach.
Growing up I was always the shy, timid, and reserved one. I was afraid to say no. I compromised a lot and I was a people pleaser; a push-over. So many times I was easliy taken advantage of. People knew they could ask me for something. I was well-liked but because I wouldn't say no I learned to not deal with conflict well.
One hallmark of my propensity to "go with the flow" was on my wedding day. I envisioned having a beautiful ceremony with all of my sisters by my side, may family taking part in my big day, lots of laughter, flowers, music, my "it song", my dream dress, the kit and kaboodle. Yet I compromised even my wedding day as I stood in front of the judge in the courthouse with my two witnesses.
Why?
I had created a pattern of putting others' wants, desires and needs before my own.
But Why?
The truth is I was afraid of rejection, I constantly cared what people would think and, though I was well-liked, and I had low self-esteem. It may not have looked like it from the outside but I was lost. It was always, "I can live with that" instead of asking for and expecting what I wanted.
The turning point for me what when my daughter was born. It was like I was looking in the mirror. I did not want her to be me. I didn't want her to have a skewed view of love and I certainly wanted her to have a healthy esteem.
So, I started saying, "NO." Saying no is like riding a bike. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Really, it wasn't that hard at all. Interestingly, people could always talk to me. People always valued what I had to say because it was genuine. One day a co-worker said to me, "You know as much as I talk to you, you should be charging me for these sessions!" Wow. All the while I had been going through and helping others go through but I didn't know why. I since learned and embraced that I have a heart for women and personal relationships.
Are you attracting men who are overly critical of you? Do you feel like you can't do anything right? Are you in a relationship but lonely? Are you staying in a relationship hoping he will change? Do you have a voice in your relationship? Are you experiencing more pain than joy? Are you noticing a pattern of drain in your current situation?
In my new book, A Thousand Wishes, I explore turmoil, power struggles, self-worth and intimacy in relationships.
A Thousand Wishes --A powerful read for anyone looking to love as intended.
www.letoniapage.com
One hallmark of my propensity to "go with the flow" was on my wedding day. I envisioned having a beautiful ceremony with all of my sisters by my side, may family taking part in my big day, lots of laughter, flowers, music, my "it song", my dream dress, the kit and kaboodle. Yet I compromised even my wedding day as I stood in front of the judge in the courthouse with my two witnesses.
Why?
I had created a pattern of putting others' wants, desires and needs before my own.
But Why?
The truth is I was afraid of rejection, I constantly cared what people would think and, though I was well-liked, and I had low self-esteem. It may not have looked like it from the outside but I was lost. It was always, "I can live with that" instead of asking for and expecting what I wanted.
The turning point for me what when my daughter was born. It was like I was looking in the mirror. I did not want her to be me. I didn't want her to have a skewed view of love and I certainly wanted her to have a healthy esteem.
So, I started saying, "NO." Saying no is like riding a bike. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Really, it wasn't that hard at all. Interestingly, people could always talk to me. People always valued what I had to say because it was genuine. One day a co-worker said to me, "You know as much as I talk to you, you should be charging me for these sessions!" Wow. All the while I had been going through and helping others go through but I didn't know why. I since learned and embraced that I have a heart for women and personal relationships.
Are you attracting men who are overly critical of you? Do you feel like you can't do anything right? Are you in a relationship but lonely? Are you staying in a relationship hoping he will change? Do you have a voice in your relationship? Are you experiencing more pain than joy? Are you noticing a pattern of drain in your current situation?
In my new book, A Thousand Wishes, I explore turmoil, power struggles, self-worth and intimacy in relationships.
A Thousand Wishes --A powerful read for anyone looking to love as intended.
www.letoniapage.com
Book, A Thousand Wishes
Author Letonia Page | A Thousand Wishes
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